The most common fetishes i come across in my work. not always the norm but enough to stand out.
small penis humiliation – this was the hardest one for me to understand and for the longest time i refused to accommodate. at first glance it seemed that perhaps they were passive aggressively abused by lovers or loved ones and learned to associate the degradation to pleasure or “love”. i wasn’t a mean person and i couldn’t bring myself to make fun of them, also i didn’t look at them as something to make fun of, they were just normal guys. and not all men who want small penis humiliation have small penises, it just seems to be passed down in some way. issues dealing with the root cakra and early development in a family structure can cause some people to favor domination. not having to take responsibility and being the submissive role can be comforting. nurturing can get twisted at an early age when the “loving” parents dominate to assert control, this can manifest in different ways including being degraded. degrees of submission can be linked to need of approval and needing to let go of assertive roles to regain the submissive and more comforting role of a helpless child.
cuckolding – my theory of this one is influenced by porn most superficially. men have been watching women have sex with other men to get off and create the fantasy of connection to that woman as though they were the ones having sex. they’ve associated this visual with their ejaculation (bliss feeling). one on one sex takes them out of the perspective of the third person and they can become lost within this perception and crave the familiar perspective of watching the reactions of both beings within the copulating couple. there are bigger reasons for this that i was told by god in the initial encounter. he told me that i would have to adjust to being able to love more than one man (not something i ever considered and being the oddly monogamous being i am this has been a challenging task and area of growth). certain women are made for multiple lovers. kind of like males within polygamy but in sexual references the polygamist male doesn’t necessarily have sex with his wives at the same time – and why should he really, physically he only has one outlet that can be inserted into a woman. a woman has 3 major insertion areas that one man cannot fill at the same time in order for her to reach her highest climax (connection to bliss/heaven/god). men understand this on a soul level but don’t intellectualize it further than sex, mostly because they are only concerned with the immediate physical realm and once that is “satisfied” their mind switches back to its structural, data driven mind set.
forced oral on a man – after reading the above you may think: men have 2 insertion points, how are they any different from women? i’ve discussed the adam’s apple in past videos and while most men have sufficient openings, the throat cakra (especially in this regeneration) can become stressed and this physical need for release of tension can manifest itself in sexual fantasy (closely related to suckling a mother), just as the fantasy of anal stimulation or insertion would release the root cakra. socially, this can be reinforced by curiosities, not being taught true intimacy and confusing pure love with romantic. for some men (depending on the degree of tolerance and understanding) it can be linked to humiliation and domination. this thought manifestation is also indicative of throat cakra repression and the need to release the pressure.
dirty talk/trash talk/name calling – this one is fairly common and actually i had help from god and spirits to help me experience the level of trust and intimacy that is involved in getting to the primal point of burning the rage within and transforming the idea of this being a negative connotation. i’ve never considered myself a slut (i’ve had many friends to compare with and i would be on the more prudish side of the spectrum in comparison) but what is a slut? in our society it is a label we use to shame a woman and infer that she sleeps around and gives her power over to men without respect for herself. to give yourself fully to another requires a level of intimacy and trust – naturally (if we let ourselves be fully free) there are no sexual limitations, only those “society” has designated as being acceptable. how is this decided? mostly by religion and government who want o control the masses. this creates a fear within us to keep us submissive to the larger “father figure” or masculine energy. its funny that most who label another as a slut are really the sluts themselves, whoring out their lives to please and gain approval from an invisible “ideal” that they have been conditioned to follow in order to remain controllable. so when a man hears a woman call herself a “his slut” denotes that she has given him her trust and unlimited access. this feeds the male ego and allows him to feel worthy and more powerful or deserving of such a position.
being told to cum (countdowns) – while i recognize the voice is a powerful tool, i’m more so referring to those who cannot experience full release without outside aid: this associates to their mostly to fathers, or that energetic role. how was he disciplined growing up – did he fall in line to please? even if that concept changes over time they can still have the physical attachments to reacting to commands, much like an animal. they associate action with reward and without being allowed or told to do something cannot break the submission in order to be self sufficient and think for themselves, they’ve been conditioned to believe that the custodian knows better and dissociate from themselves and need someone to control themselves for them.
being told to and eating their own cum – this is like a higher degree of deviation from the above and associated with humiliation
women’s panties: buying/stealing used – smell is linked to our most basic cakra, the root, which is connected to primal needs and an influential source on memory. for a man to smell the scent of a woman’s sexual excretions it links them to past memories of sexual encounters or even the smell of their own mothers – its comforting and stimulating.
Stay tuned for the breakdown of the others:
women’s panties: wearing them
feet (seeing the soft soles or watching a woman suck her toes)
cheating on wife and trash talking her (usually while wife is asleep in the vicinity)
role-plays about cheating on wife with: babysitter, sister in law, wife’s best friend, stepdaughter
other role-plays: interracial (use of “nigger”), office setting with coworker
having me tell them “i love you ______”
fantasizing that they will/can come visit me (usually just a smoke screen to see if i find them attractive/dateable)
most creative role plays: plantation reclamation – boobs with magical potions